Child and family psychologist Olesya Pokusaeva positively evaluated the idea of holding consultations with a psychologist for couples who are going to divorce and have children.
“I believe that such an initiative will be very interesting for those couples who have children, because children are the most defenseless little people, and divorce hits them hardest. Therefore, such counseling by psychologists before divorce is extremely necessary. And I would also include mediators, because we have very little practice of mediated divorces. If there was psychology at the beginning of counseling, then the psychologist, for example, gives the conclusion that, unfortunately, divorce is inevitable, that is, they could not agree on some parameters, values do not coincide - then it would involve a mediator, so that this divorce was the least traumatic, “- she believes.
According to the specialist, it is necessary to provide several consultations with a psychologist before marriage.
“Let's say, here are the people filed an application for marriage in the registry office. Very often they do not have an understanding of what a family is, what are the responsibilities of a man, a woman, or they have these responsibilities in their heads, who owes what to whom, but they do not coincide, that is, there is passion, there is sexual attraction, youth, beauty, it's all great, but the family - it's not only about this, it's about the difficulties of everyday life, about the ability to negotiate, about compromise. Therefore, of course, it is very important before divorces, but it would be even more important to conduct such counseling before marriage”, - added Pokusaeva.
Earlier it was reported that the State Duma will introduce a draft law on divorce.
“I believe that such an initiative will be very interesting for those couples who have children, because children are the most defenseless little people, and divorce hits them hardest. Therefore, such counseling by psychologists before divorce is extremely necessary. And I would also include mediators, because we have very little practice of mediated divorces. If there was psychology at the beginning of counseling, then the psychologist, for example, gives the conclusion that, unfortunately, divorce is inevitable, that is, they could not agree on some parameters, values do not coincide - then it would involve a mediator, so that this divorce was the least traumatic, “- she believes.
According to the specialist, it is necessary to provide several consultations with a psychologist before marriage.
“Let's say, here are the people filed an application for marriage in the registry office. Very often they do not have an understanding of what a family is, what are the responsibilities of a man, a woman, or they have these responsibilities in their heads, who owes what to whom, but they do not coincide, that is, there is passion, there is sexual attraction, youth, beauty, it's all great, but the family - it's not only about this, it's about the difficulties of everyday life, about the ability to negotiate, about compromise. Therefore, of course, it is very important before divorces, but it would be even more important to conduct such counseling before marriage”, - added Pokusaeva.
Earlier it was reported that the State Duma will introduce a draft law on divorce.